Showing posts with label colon cancer. Show all posts
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Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Mama's Few More Pennies: Havard Lane Totes

She doesn't realize I know the reason for her pressing need for money.  Mama started the end of October with "I've got to make a few more pennies somehow.  I was going to sell buck eye trees at Two Rivers Festival but I guess I won't since the dry weather killed the tree."  I learned long and protracted sentences from Mama and Faulkner.

Dry weather kills everything, according to Mama, when there's been little rain for long spells.  Never mind the buck eye tree was over fifty years old.   They're short lived trees, like dogwoods and sassafrasses.  Mama said dry weather got those too.  And my yew tree.

Mama needs a few more pennies, a half-million of them, $5,000.00, to pay for her own funeral.  She thought she had snuck into town, as quick as the doctor released her to drive again.  She's fairly certain I don't know she went to the funeral home to check on her burial policy.  I might not have know but she was spotted by Florist Friend, who's shop is across the road from Freeman's (Funeral Home, dignified, quality and personal service).

He and his mother, the ordered formal designer behind most of the silk arrangements, keep weather eyes trained across the road.  It's the absolute truth:  funerals are big business in the floral industry.

Annnnyways, Florist Friend promptly called, "Is MawMaw Perlena planning on popping off soon??  She's across the road..."

I knew it!  Well.  I knew something.  She had been depressed since the colon resection to remove a spot of cancer.  The diagnosis of colon cancer had come in late August, hardly two months after the death of her oldest child.  She had been down, feeling worthless, with little energy or drive and now she wanted to make a few more pennies?

 She doesn't have to.  She wants to.

The verbal onslought for the ability and resources to make a few more pennies started as quickly as she could drive the three miles to her Pine Level home, pick up the phone, and call me.
11 Havard Lane

She's a classic octogenarian Southern lady, her adeptness at passive-aggressive behavior honed to unrecognizable by those dolts that don't know her most of the fambly.  A therapist friend told me that Mama's generation of youngsters weren't allowed to voice their thoughts.  They couldn't express want, desire, or any negative emotion.  Instead they learned passive-aggressive behavior and have carried it into old age.

Mama calls me and says "I need to make a few more pennies.  The buckeye tree is gone.  I can't hold out to make more than a batch of jelly in a day.  The hens aren't laying.  No one will drive out here for a yard sale.  I could piece and put in a quilt but couldn't get out of it what it's worth.  I don't know how to do it, but I just need to make a few more pennies."

This is passive-aggressive for what Mama really wants to say to me:  I should harvest the half-dozen buck eyes off my tree and plant them for her;  I should purchase another fifty pound bag of sugar and two dozen boxes of SureJel pectin, lids and bands and make up her five gallons of juice into jelly;  I should not use her eggs even though Perlena's Peculiar Hennie's eggs have superior leavening power and no other will do;  if I were a good child I'd have her yard sale in town for her;  AND I should help her put in the quilt that I know is already pieced together.

I've as much chutzpah as Mama, a positive aspect of mDNA.  I didn't do any of those things.  I pulled a classic tactic in dealing with children called "distract and redirect."  It works wonders, keeping youngsters and octogenarians alike from becoming so engrossed in a behavior that they become aberrant.  I found her a project to redirect her attention to and it's worked wonders, serving the purpose also of putting a few more pennies in her pocket.

I talked/coaxed/directed her how to make a tote bag.  Not any tote bag but one from recycled materials:  her chicken and dog feed sacks.



Remember, Mama doesn't throw any good thing away when it may have one or more uses in it.  She certainly doesn't throw away the feed sacks, their woven and fused plastic material awaiting some repurposing.  Appealing to her "use it up, wear it out" sensibility, I brought the newest feed sack up from the barn, cut it, set up her sewing machine, and gave her the pieces. 

We dug out a cloth tote to see how the base was squared.  The prototype of Havard Lane Totes was sewn.

Mama and I gathered all the feed sacks out of the barn, crib, shop, and kindergarten building.  I wash them at the pump when the weather is warmer; in her tub when the cold wind blows.  They're hung on a line to dry.


Mama wipes each one off and out to remove any small debris.  I use her rolling Fiskars cutter and quilt board to cut them.  Scissors work fine but are slow.  A yard stick is used to get a straight cut.

Mama turns the bags inside out, autographs them, and turns under the top hem, clothes pinning it in place until it can be sewn.  She folds the swath of handle material into thirds and clothes pins it also.  She'll turn them right side out again when they're completed.   This consumes a large amount of her time on our sewing days, the other bits are spent feeding the heater more wood and cooking us a bite to eat.  She insists on cooking for us.  She is, after all, Mama.


It's a good project for her.  It's a better project for the both of us.  Together.  Mama's mama, called Aunt May or Aunt MayRob by the locals, fancied herself something on a stick, I'm finding out.  Another story for another time...  She tells more and more of her thoughts from childhood and adolescence.  I'm wondering if the slow release will ease some of that passive-aggressiveness but after 84 years of it I'm not holding my breath.

Internet orders are slowly but constantly coming in.  Local souls are hearing about the totes and are dropping by to purchase them.   We've a small order going into a local gift shop soon and another friend with a gift shop in Lucedale wants a few also.  Havard Lane Totes are within a day of opening on Etsy.

Mama's shuffling walk is a little faster these days.  She's been tireder going to bed but sleeping better and longer.  She's cooking and eating again, something she's not done for months.  She's excited to be putting a few more pennies in the bank and hasn't mentioned needing to do it again.

She's brimming with busy-ness.  I'd like to think it's the business of living...
The heart of Pine Level, Mississippi resides at 11 Havard Lane.
A natural recycler from her days as a toddler during
The Great Depression, Mama's kicking it up a notch and
making it profitable.  These are Perlena's Peculiar Critters
Feed Sack Totes, also known as Havard Lane Totes.

Monday, October 3, 2011

4 - 1 - 1: Seasoning Blend from a Blogger Friend (News of Mama, too)

Woot!  It's October already.  Is it just me or did this year only start ten months ago?  I like to get my reflection of the past year's activities started ahead of schedule so if I get a bit nostalgic, wistful, or dramatic in a hokey sort of way, please overlook the behavior.  Better yet, tell me to knock it off and get to work.  But first let me tell you about the last couple of weeks and September with Mama and why I've not been around a lot lately.

Y'all know Mama by now.  She's independent.  Strong-willed.  A do-er.  She works her garden (those were last year's tomatoes she grew), tends a hot house full of container plants, shoots hateful armadillos and opossums, loves to fish as long as it's not in a boat, cooks for her family, loves her family, and is faithful to an Almighty that loves the both of us, despite ourselves.  She's not my best friend but is this daughter's best sounding-board, never failing to call a bad idea out or applying a generous slathering of encouragement when needed.  She's a champion of children's education and continues to be an example for education, reading constantly to enlarge the database that occupies the space of her mind.

She was diagnosed last month with colon cancer.  It's kind of a long story (which I'm good at but not here).  To make it short, her rheumatologist didn't like something in her bloodwork;  pernicious anemia was found:  local gp sent her to gastroenterologist;  a half-dozen tests were done including biopsy of ulcer in the cecum which revealed a spot of cancer, larger than a nickel but smaller than a quarter.  Eighteen inches of colon was removed in a laparascopic colon resection BUT her heart rate began going up afterwards.  The doctors are going to argue with me (and have) but the more Mama hit the morphine button the more her heart rate went up.  That's alright though.  Mama's day nurse called in a staff internist who called in a cardiologist.  Mama's great grandson, John Thomas, sent along Luigi to keep her company in the hospital while the doctors were conferring and continuing more tests.
 The tests showed that Mama has aortic valve stenosis.  Or aortic stenosis, depending upon which web site you visit.  It can be corrected with surgery BUT since Mama has brittle bones (she had negative bone porosity for years and barely registers positive on the bone density scale) she'll have to have a less invasive surgery.  The whole family, plus cardiologist, is looking for a surgeon in the very local Deep South that can perform it.  I've been on the road a good bit.  And in and out of her house even more.  A brother and then a cousin came to stay with her but she's ready to stay by herself.  The heart condition is not imminently fatal.  She lives her faith;  it doesn't matter what the heart condition is she doesn't want anybody staying with her, messing up her routine.  She doesn't function at 100 % Perlena when her routine is messed up.  

I understand completely.  I'm all out of sorts when my routine is botched too.  So.  

I don't have to go tend the chickens for her or cut them greenery because every one is gone from Mama's house but her and she's more than capable of feeding her hennies, gathering eggs, and shutting the hen house door herself.

Which has left me to do my own thang today for the first time in weeks and weeks:  laundry, cleaning house, making cakes, and catching up on foodie friends' posts!  I don't know about y'all, but I tend to see what's happening in the South first and then branch out east and west and north.  This afternoon I only got as far as Florida and my friend, Jackie.  The link from her Facebook blog fan page to the Bloomingdale-Riverview Patch (http://bloomingdale.patch.com/articles/fixin-to-fix-the-fixins) had me smiling from the beginning.  And then I saw something I didn't recognize:  a number that I knew couldn't be telephone information in a food post:  4 - 1 - 1.  It was highlighted.  A link:  http://syrupandbiscuits.com/4-1-1-seasoning/ !!!  

Ohhhh deliciousness!  It's all of my favorites in just the right proportions.  I don't know why I didn't think of it but there it was, everything necessary for a quick shake of flavoring:  kosher salt, black pepper, and garlic powder.  The ratio of salt to the 'nother ingredients is 4 to 1.  That's four parts salt to one part pepper and one part garlic powder.  

I knew I had to make it.  Immediately.  While still putting cakes together.

I had almost all of the measuring cups out so it was no problem to pull out three more:

I dumped the cup of salt and the quarter cups of black pepper and garlic powder in the mason jar.

And shook it all up!  Tadadaaaaaa!!!!  It was just that easy.

I thought I had a bag of okra in the bottom of the refrigerator but it was bell peppers from the same cousin that sent along the pears a  couple of weeks ago.  I had wanted to make Jackie's roasted okra.  Not happening tonight.  The peppers were diced coarsely, along with a bit of sweet onion, drizzled with olive oil and given a good sprinkling of freshly made 4-1-1 seasoning.  I baked them along with the last cake (a VERY interesting combination of smells:  chocolate and bell pepper) and Beaudeux and I had them with left over chicken from the Pig.  

OOOoooooo... and you know what else?  That's Jackie's Sweet Tea Sangria, too!  

The ingredients to 4 - 1 - 1 seasoning are:
kosher salt
black pepper
garlic powder

I used one cup and one-fourth cup increments but make as much or as little as you'd like.

Y'all enjoy!
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And because I really am warped that way, here's a fun little pic entitled "Luigi's revenge."